I always enjoy reading Neale Donald Walsch’s daily letter and today’s letter stands out especially. It says: your hearts know in silence the secrets of the days and the nights.
Kahlil Gibran said that, and he was right. Listen, therefore, to your heart. Cultivate the ability to do this. Practice it. Produce it. Perfect it.
I often ponder about what is relationship. The real relationship should be go through several stages:
1. Trust: After you talk to each other, you feel that you have trust about this person that you can share anything with him.
2. Care: From the emotional stage, you really care about this person’s well being and his happiness.
All my friends know that I am a big doer. I can plan thousand things everyday and just do it. My mentor said I am fast like an arrow. Being a doer definitely give me some fulfillment about getting things done. But it is very easy to lost myself and the power of now.
So what is here right now? I look up, I look down, I look around, the level three space is quiet and open. I feel some grief after saying no to love, I feel some lost as being a human, I also feel an urge to grasp something although my brain clearly tell me no to. I am trying to stay present while grieving, I know eventually everything will be over and the emotion are holding the seeds of future transformation.
Emotion is the beauty of our humanness and human-mess. We don’t need to necessary like it or dislike about it. It is just part of our life and all I can do now is to lean into it, not escape, not rush it, just leaning into it. Enjoy the present moment and enjoy the bitter sweetness of being a human!
I assisted the leadership circle workshop for the past three days in the coaches training institute. The attendees are all experienced executive coaches from all over the country. I talked to one lady from Boston one day, she asked me, what is your niche? I answered: My niche is on Asia American Executives, because that is where I came from. She looked at me for a minute and asked me: It must be hard right? Since Asia are so different. I looked at her firmly, and say: We are all the same! She still confused and say, but the culture are so different, so the coaching can be different, right? I say:
Here is a lovely poem by Mary Oliver. It reminded me how I passed through the last 10 years of my life.
Everything started as I made some stupid decisions. Then it gradually became a constant struggle in my life. I clearly knew something was wrong and something started missing in my life. But I didn’t know what to do to fix it or in a more frankly way to speak, I didn’t have encourage to do it. The breakthrough looked so scary, I didn’t believe that I could do it by myself. Also, it seemed everyone followed the same rule and everyone seems happy on the path. So I tried to follow where everyone going, although deeply inside I knew that it is not for me. Days passed, months passed, years passed, until one day, I clearly knew that I can fool anyone in the world, but I can’t fool my own heart! I felt that I am living in other people’s life, I feel that I am living in other people’s expectation, I feel that I abandoned myself in the path. It is such a betray to myself that I don’t even like myself anymore.
Once upon a time, there is a tribe called willows, we got one tribe, two leaders, four retreats and 26 hearts that are bounded together. Here is what we use when we connect! Thanks Rikkie and Caroline for creating this! I feel the love from Dubai now!
Take a few moments with your eyes open, notice where you are sitting
Become aware of the things around you
The more you notice, the more you will be able to receive the gifts that are presented to you throughout your day.
Look behind you
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This being human is a guest house
Every morning a new arrival.
A joy, depression, a meanness
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor
Welcome and entertain them all
Even if they are a crowd of sorrows.
Who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
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If you think you have nothing to lose, you win.
If you think you have something to win, you lose.
It all drives to motivation.
Why are you doing what you are doing right now?
To avoid loss? To achieve gain?
Wrong reason both times.
Life is not about win-and-lose.
Life is about being or not being,
expressing or not expressing,
who you are.
Don’t do things for personal benefit.
And don’t do things to avoid personal damage.
Do things to feel personal authenticity.
Then your life will make sense,
no matter what is going on around you.
By the end of day, play to win, not play not to loose!
